The general perception is that use of technology cuts both ways. In our ever changing society, we are all but required to stay on top of technology changes and to continuously adjust our homes, families, and work roles as a result. As much as we strive as parents to reduce screen time and connections with technology, with virtual school, social restrictions, and a desire to keep our kids connected with their social network, screens and technology are more important now than ever. The assumption is often that increasing levels of smartphone use in particular have a big impact on how families interact and function. We have all seen parents staring intently into their phone while their child runs amok in a restaurant or store. We have all probably been that parent holding the phone too. Interestingly, there is some research to suggest that the link between parenting and smartphone usage may not be as harmful as we expect.
In a recent analysis of several studies in combination, researchers were able to assess whether the use of a smartphone was associated with or impacting on parenting. Results surprising found little evidence to connect the two. This is the good news. The bad news is that TIME was impacting on parenting. When smartphones were used by parents at low levels, displacing little direct time with family, more smartphone use was associated with better (not worse) parenting. This suggests that use of smartphones in moderation and in a way that does not reduce time parents spend with children may be at least neutral if not beneficial. Use of technology and smartphones may play multiple roles in family life, and when not heavily impacting on family time, may have a positive role in parenting. It is possible that apps and other technology outlets allow parents to connect and relate to their children, to feel connected with others (reducing stress and feelings of isolation), allows brief “mental margarita” time for parents to escape momentarily, or to serve as a resource to aid parenting (among many). As with almost everything, excess technology use that limits, reduces, or eliminates time for parents to interact with their children may be an impact on parenting. Kids do better when parents are present, engaged, and consistent. We do know that. So, the bottom line is to enjoy your phone and free time (in moderation of course). As parents, it is essential that we take care of ourselves first. They tell you to put the oxygen mask on yourself first if the plane is going down for a reason. You have to be a functional adult to be a functional parent, so self-care is necessary. Just be mindful of the opportunities that present themselves to talk with, play with, cheer with, and laugh with your family. These are the moments you can’t get back. Put your phone down and really be present for that time. That Tweet, email, post, or funny video will still be there when you have a free moment and your kids are doing other things (that’s the beauty of the internet!).
